Thursday, September 24, 2009

a bit of clarity...

Often times, when I have asked someone what she is looking for in a significant other she will tell me that she does not know what she wants but what she does not want.

That gives the entire relationship I negative connotation. That makes a person mold her life to fit with another's life. Why is this acceptable?

There are many things that I am sure of. (One of them is that that last sentence is dangling...) One thing that I am sure of is that I know what I want in another person; I know what I don't want in a person as well, but more importantly, I know what I want.

The more I come into my own and grasp things I know to be true, the more refreshing I find life. Life can certainly be surprising and hurtful, but even pain is something beautiful and sublime. One should relish in pain like one relishes in joy. It is thrilling to know that an experience was good enough to allow you to truly feel agony and bliss. Allow yourself to fully feel both of these things. Let what is going to happen, happen. Why not let an emotion fully wash over you? There is a certain realism that comes with being passionate, and that realism is something that I am not willing to give up.

What is it that I want?

1. Intelligence (This is a quality to be decided upon based on my own views of what that word truly means.)

2. Wit (A sense of humor filled with puns and dryness)

3. Must read good books ("good" meaning not popular fiction.. e.g. Sparks, Meyer, Piccoult)

4. Not religious, but spiritual

5. Attractive (Let's be honest; I'm no harridan.)

This list makes me seem particularly accepting of many a man. Do not be confused; I am quite persnickety about such things. In fact, I can picture one man in particular who fits these specifications quite well.

On another note:
Things always change; one either becomes malleable to this or lives a life filled with discontent. Learning to be malleable is the difficult part. But, the more focus put on such things, the easier they become.

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